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A Day In The Life of A Romance Writer

(Enjoy this part of the story accompanied by this song that begins at 1:02.)

I sit at the table, finishing my breakfast, looking out at the rain coming down, a soft pitter-patter on the balcony. My mind drifts to the time Hubby and I made love in the rain in the backyard at the old house. The hedges all around the yard, taller than six feet, allowed for much privacy in the evenings and at night.

It had been a warm day, that time. Not a cold March like today.

I sigh, having only been awake a couple of hours and already missing Hubby like mad. I always miss him. I can get lost in my work, but I pine over him all the time. Sometimes I worry that I have too many needs…or unreasonable needs.

No, these are just my needs. A lot of intense emotions. And he’s always been more than happy to do his best to fulfil them whenever he can. Else he would have said something sooner. It’s been almost twelve years.

I much prefer it when he’s working from home, though, which he does a couple of days per week. I can see his face, hear his meetings (haha), and get a kiss and hug whenever I want. He beckons me with our sweet talk and we can exchange silly banter on the fly.

I sigh again. Well, these dishes aren’t going to do themselves.

(Enjoy the next part of the story accompanied by this song.)

I trudge away at the day, getting a few things done around the house and getting some writing done. I love that I get so inspired and lose myself in my characters. But I feel what they feel so intensely, and since there is romance in everything I write, whether for teens or my more mature stories, it makes me miss Hubby even more.

I feel a pang in my heart, in my stomach. Ugh. This is the fate that has befallen me, of being such a highly sensitive emotional writer. This pang is my character’s, but I feel it as though it were mine. And now I need Hubby to wrap his arms around me even more.

Finally, the day is through, a half-day for me (thank goodness), and Hubby has come home. He’s set his things down and washed up to prepare the meal, and I offer to assist him with some of the supper preparations. As we do this, Hubby shares his day with me.

It’s a lot of fun to hear the latest stories from work. I used to work there too before we met. I started there before he did. He’s been at that company for over ten years now. I know the president and vice-pres of the company. I know all of Hubby’s colleagues, or most of them, I know the clients, and the systems and software used by the company. I can follow along about the latest gossip or anecdotes as though I were there living it with him. It’s a lot of fun to hear about his days. I can imagine the people, their faces, their voices, their reactions. I know them, so it’s easy to picture it all.

We exchange more silly banter as we prepare supper and set the food to cook.

Hubby wraps his arms around me and kisses my forehead.

(Enjoy the next part of the story accompanied by this song.)

‘It’s Mando tonight,’ I say.

‘I know,’ he replies.


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His You-Know-What Was Painfully Large! There IS such a thing as too big.

They say size matters, and I totally agree! It’s not in the way one might think.

It matters that it fits.

While I like my man to be snug, I also want it to, like, NOT HURT!

We hooked up for the first time on a college campus, outside on a park bench. He was five years younger than me, freshly turned 19. I was hooking up with a younger guy and he was hooking up with an older gal. It benefitted us both.

It was meant to be a one-night stand!

I think maybe the position and the fact that we were both inebriated allowed us to find a position that worked. But I felt immediately how big he was, and in a way that it had trouble fitting with my size.

But we had our fun, and it was fun.

We both thought this would just be a one-time hookup. We had been flirting at previous parties and this time we overtly flirted with each other and both made our intentions known.

We walked off, holding hands, snickering, and left the party, abandoning our friends for a middle-of-the-night hookup we both enjoyed.

Then we found ourselves recounting that night to each other and flirting and making out the next day. So it looked like maybe there would be more hookups in store for us.

One of his friends coached him on how to “court” and encouraged us to become an item.

Honestly, I think this guy was living vicariously through C (we’ll call hookup guy C) because he told him when to apologize after a fight, when to buy me flowers, when to declare that he loved me, etc.

So encouraged by both our friends, C and I wound up dating.


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He Punched Me In the Stomach! And Some Days I Still Wonder If I’m Partly To Blame

When I dated the man who abused me, I was working on a specific project with a friend and several people I knew. I was choreographing a Fight Scene.

Now, I took Stage Combat classes and conveyed all the rules to everyone involved. Many involved knew these rules already.

Basic Rules Include:

  • Feign touching without touching;
  • The person receiving the hits is always in charge of the fight (until it switches);
  • Go through the movements slowly until comfortable to go faster;
  • Retain eye contact;
  • Know each other’s signals, etc.

I had gone through the initial moves I had put down on paper with the actors involved, but the duel was incomplete. Everyone chimed in their thoughts and feedback, as well as ideas. I was unsure how to end the duel, as well as about some details in the middle of the duel. I took notes, then went home and back to the writing board to jot down some ideas.

When it came to my abuser — we’ll call him SH (which references the nickname I have for him) — he was so good at the push-and-pull game for affection, that I was at his beck and call whenever he decided he wanted to see me. I was ready to drop everything for him. So I ran to his place as soon as he called me to say to come over.

However, I was on a schedule for that fight scene, so I brought my notes and after some cuddle time, I returned to working on the fight scene.

I stood with my notes, reviewing some movements and doing them in the air to better visualise what I was conceptualising.

SH made some remarks (he always knew how to manipulate me) which prompted me to ask for his help to figure out some moves I should add.

Yeah, I fell right into his trap.


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My Ex Stalked Me – And Then Harassed Me For Over A Decade

Trigger Warnings: The following story deals with Harassment and Stalking, and may be triggering to some readers. Reader discretion is advised.

He stalked me, and didn’t understand boundaries. I tried everything; asking nicely, being clear, being mean, and I even pretended to be his friend because I was that desperate!

When I was finishing high school, my good friend AM (the one who saved me from the guy who intended to R-word me) matched me up with a friend of hers, who seemed to both of us like a genuinely kind guy. (We’ll call him M.)

We dated for about a month only.

He seemed nice, offering to walk me home, even in the pouring rain, offering to meet with me and help with errands, offering to accompany me to work.

I should have realised what his true intentions were — he didn’t want me out of his sight.

I worked at a cinema at the time. AM and I were planning a girl’s day out with her sister and another good friend of hers. We were going to go to the hair salon together, go see a movie at my workplace, and then just hang out.

I told M we were having a girl’s day. I had seen him for several days before that day. I told him I’d call him the day after the girl’s day out.

When I walked out of the movie theatre with my friends after the movie finished, I found M standing at the door to the movie theatre, like right there, inside the cinema establishment.

He bought a ticket for a movie he had no intention of seeing so that he could wait for me there and escort me home.

AM was disappointed because we were going to do more together afterward. I wanted my day with my girls.

He insisted he was trying to be romantic. But it cut our day short. He wouldn’t leave us be. We asked him to let us have our evening; I told him it was just us girls. He would not leave. So then the others called their boyfriends to meet up.

After that, whenever I wanted some time alone with friends, he showed me his more jealous side. Always insisting he was doing it to be romantic. Then he started telling me things he did “for me,” like quit smoking (which I had not asked him to do) and whatnot.

He would call every day and then ask a million questions the next time we spoke if I wasn’t home when he’d called. He would wait for me outside my job and get angry at me if I wound up finishing earlier and was not there when he went to meet with me. I would not ask him to and would not coordinate with him.


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