He Punched Me In the Stomach! And Some Days I Still Wonder If I’m Partly To Blame

When I dated the man who abused me, I was working on a specific project with a friend and several people I knew. I was choreographing a Fight Scene.

Now, I took Stage Combat classes and conveyed all the rules to everyone involved. Many involved knew these rules already.

Basic Rules Include:

  • Feign touching without touching;
  • The person receiving the hits is always in charge of the fight (until it switches);
  • Go through the movements slowly until comfortable to go faster;
  • Retain eye contact;
  • Know each other’s signals, etc.

I had gone through the initial moves I had put down on paper with the actors involved, but the duel was incomplete. Everyone chimed in their thoughts and feedback, as well as ideas. I was unsure how to end the duel, as well as about some details in the middle of the duel. I took notes, then went home and back to the writing board to jot down some ideas.

When it came to my abuser — we’ll call him SH (which references the nickname I have for him) — he was so good at the push-and-pull game for affection, that I was at his beck and call whenever he decided he wanted to see me. I was ready to drop everything for him. So I ran to his place as soon as he called me to say to come over.

However, I was on a schedule for that fight scene, so I brought my notes and after some cuddle time, I returned to working on the fight scene.

I stood with my notes, reviewing some movements and doing them in the air to better visualise what I was conceptualising.

SH made some remarks (he always knew how to manipulate me) which prompted me to ask for his help to figure out some moves I should add.

Yeah, I fell right into his trap.

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Binky Productions is a video production company that produces Films, Commercial Videos and Multimedia for artists. Binky Ink is the writing division for freelance and fiction writing, as well as screenplay formatting. Celinka Serre is also a YouTuber for Dragon Age gaming, and Green Healing for alternative and natural healing from abuse. View all posts by binkyproductions

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