Category Archives: What Is Love To You (Medium)

“Would You Cheat On Me With Him?” – My Husband Asked Me.

“Would You Sleep With Him? Would you cheat on me with him?”

So, this is not what it seems.

My husband and I have a very honest relationship. It’s no secret that I have a thing for fictional characters, most notably from video games. A lot of these characters wind up in my Fan-Fiction stories, the smutty ones.

My husband and I joke sometimes about my “fictional husbands and lovers.” My step-kids (teens) know that my husband is the best-looking man to me and only one other rivals him: Solas.

Solas is my favourite character from the Dragon Age video games franchise. He is an elf, a complex character with angst and a lore-heavy backstory, and as far as video game characters go, looks like my husband.

I’ve speculated in the past which characters I would date if I existed in those realms and if I were single and my husband was not in those realms with me. Some of them, yes, some of them, no.

But I never thought about if any of those characters were ever to appear in our realm, our world. Would I be tempted to be intimate with them then?

My husband one day asked me, out of the blue:

“If Solas appeared in our world, appeared here, would you sleep with him? Would you cheat on me with him?”

I was a little taken aback, I’m not gonna lie, and I did ask him, “Where is this coming from?”


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Songs That Break My Heart 😭 – Response To The Songs About Love That Hit Me Hard challenge!

I first read about this challenge from 

The Sturg whose story was in my feed. So I checked out 

Lucy Socha’s challenge regarding it.

So, here are five songs that break my heart when I listen to them. So fair warning, they might make you sad too.

Incomplete (Backstreet Boys)

This song was but a ballad to me for so long before I had ever known real heartbreak. And then I played Dragon Age: Inquisition and romanced a character who is not who he seems to be, who is set on doing something no matter what else that means, even if it means leaving and never seeing the woman he loves ever again. So many lyrics are so symbolic of this character and the scenes in the game; it’s incredible. It’s also a beautiful song.

Remember (Josh Groban)

This song was released for the 2004 movie Troy. It is a sad song about the loss of a lover to death. I have been lucky not to lose a lover in this way, but I have lost friends to death, and their partners fell apart. Just hearing the song gets me teary-eyed. I don’t know how I would be able to go on if I ever lost my husband.

Love the Way You Lie, Part 2 (Rihanna feat. Eminem)

Now this one is a powerful one for me. I dated a few guys who were either counter-dependent or had issues like drug addictions, or got involved with the wrong crowd of people. Being pushed away to be pulled back in always hurts. These relationships began so well and seemed so wonderful, but because we were in two different worlds emotionally, situations became toxic and escalated quickly, only for us to reconcile in the heat of passion and then to do it all over again a few days later.


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A Bouquet of Spoons and an Elf – Are All I Needed for Valentine’s Day

Well, the elf is a playful tease I like to use with my husband, who’s always such a good sport about my crushes on video game characters.

The spoons are a metaphor.

I first heard about “spoons” (a.k.a. being a “spoonie”) as a way to explain low/lack of energy a couple of years ago.

Basically, people with chronic illnesses or anything that may cause low energy levels, introverts, people with anxiety, etc., can ascribe spoons to explain losing large amounts of energy for things that, for others, don’t drain as much.

We start the day with a limited amount of spoons only, so we need to be selective about how we use them and when.

I have adrenal fatigue, so using “spoons” applies to me. Though most often I simply talk about energy levels.

As an example, since I’m low on spoons these days, I decided that the dishes were more pressing than the mountain of clean laundry that needs folding. Clean laundry won’t start smelling if I leave it for another day or two.

And, of course, having anxiety makes me feel panicky about having low energy, which drains my energy more, which makes me more panicky, which drains my energy more, which makes me more panicky, in a perpetual loop of draining panic. ARGH!

I jokingly asked my husband to give me a bouquet of spoons for Valentine’s Day.

Of course, I don’t literally mean anything like,

‘Husband, proceed to feed me your energy, mwahahaa!’

That would just be too creepy.


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The Scoop About My Non-Existent Boyfriend

Can’t call him Fake if the guy doesn’t even exist, right?

Fake, Invisible, Non-Existent, Invented…they all have their nuances, and so did my boyfriend.

I was starting 6th grade and I was one of those girls who had never kissed a boy before, let alone held hands with one. I was dreading all the other girls teasing me, even friends at the time made fun of me.

I didn’t want to be singled out as a loser.

So, I invented a boyfriend. And everyone believed me! Because I’m that good at character building.

So get this:

My dad at the time worked for a company that would contract him outside of the province, oftentimes in other countries, like Mexico. He got to travel loads during his time working with them. And he often worked with other folks, in association, for a said contract to sell the product the company made.

So it was totally legit when “an associate of my dad’s from Quebec City visited our city for a few weeks over the Summer with his family.”

I’ll have to ask my dad if he ever was contracted in Quebec City for a time.🤔

My boyfriend was the son of that associate. His name was Jean-François. Very common name and totally legit. (Translates to John-Frank in English, just about.)

I’m sure there are tons of men called Jean-François from Quebec City.

Uh, hi. (waves sheepishly) Sorry I used your likeness.

So anyway, they drove down from Quebec City to spend the Summer here, and my dad and his non-existent associate arranged some family outings for us all to meet and hang out. It actually wasn’t uncalled for my dad to do that with folks he worked with.

  • So they came over for an afternoon in the yard and supper.
  • We joined them to go to the Botanical Gardens. (That’s when we held hands for the first time.)
  • We hung out with our dads while they had meetings so we could sit around and chat.

Talk about fleshing out a character’s whole backstory.


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